Drop The Ego - It's Holding you Back

If you’ve ever caught yourself overthinking your text tone, avoiding a new workout because you're "not in shape enough yet,” or spiraling after a minor mistake at work… that, my friend, is ego. We often think ego is just about arrogance. But in the world of personal growth and wellness, ego is a bit sneakier. It’s the part of us that wants to protect, perform, and prove. It’s not bad—it’s just outdated software running in the background, trying to keep you safe in ways that don’t always serve your highest good.

So… What Is the Ego, Really?

Ego is your self-image. It's the identity you've built based on past experiences, social conditioning, trauma, fears, and yes—even your wins. It’s the voice that says:

• “What if I fail?”

• “I’m too much.”

• “I’m not enough.”

• “Everyone’s judging me.”

• “Once I lose the weight/find the partner/start the thing, then I’ll feel good.”

Sound familiar?

Ego thrives in comparison, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-doubt. It LOVES to measure worth in external achievements. It’s trying to help… but it’s also the one standing between you and the kind of life that feels grounded, connected, and deeply well.

Why Letting Go of Ego Is a Wellness Power Move

Because your soul is not here to compete, hustle for validation, or waste energy on pretending.

Dropping the ego doesn’t mean losing your personality or ambition. It means getting curious about what’s real versus what’s a fear-based loop. It’s about coming back to center—to the version of you that’s whole and worthy without doing a damn thing to prove it.

You’ll start showing up differently in workouts, relationships, business, and even rest (yes, resting can be an ego battle too). You’ll stop outsourcing your worth. And spoiler alert: your nervous system loves that.

Okay Cool, So How Do I Drop It?

Glad you asked. You don’t need to move to the jungle or shave your head (unless that’s your vibe). I'd recommend reading this blog on From Critic to Cheerleader and try these ego-softening practices right where you are:

1. Notice the Narrator

When you feel resistance, judgment, or shame bubbling up, pause and ask:“Who’s talking right now—my ego or my highest self?”

Hint: Ego is loud, panicky, and full of rules. Your true self? Quiet, steady, kind.

2. Move Your Body Without Performance

Dance in your kitchen. Walk without tracking steps. Work out for how it makes you feel, not how it makes you look. Let movement be a celebration, not a punishment.

3. Let Yourself Be Seen (Mess and All)

Share the thing. Say the truth. Ask the question. Your ego might cringe, but your authentic self thrives in connection—and vulnerability is the bridge.

4. Practice Compassion Like It’s a Muscle

Be as kind to yourself as you are to your best friend after a rough day. Compassion isn’t fluffy—it’s fierce, healing, and the ultimate ego antidote.

5. Breathe Into the Present Moment

Literally. Breathwork, meditation, grounding, somatic practices—these all help regulate your nervous system and dissolve ego loops. Start with a few deep belly breaths and notice how your body softens.

It’s Safe to Be You...

You don’t need to have it all together. You don’t need to prove your worth. You’re allowed to grow slowly, rest when you’re tired, and still be wildly successful and deeply loved.

Dropping the ego is a process. You won’t wake up tomorrow as a perfectly enlightened being (unless you do, in which case—teach me your ways). But with every honest breath, every courageous moment of softness, you come back home to yourself.

And that’s where the real magic happens.

If you’re craving a space to move, breathe, and explore your wellness journey without ego, pressure, or judgment—I’d love to support you. Let’s drop the masks and get real. Your body, heart, and nervous system will thank you. My accountability inner work session is all about you having these deep conversations with yourself with breathwork exercises and journal prompts.

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